Rebecca Dalmas

Day 615 Mindfulness follow through into writing out thoughts, self forgiveness and corrective application.

I listened to a talk about a practice of ‘ mindfulness.’ This is where a person slows down and breathes as thoughts come up in their head. It is to realize that the thoughts coming up in one’s head are not who one is. This was likened to a globe filled with water and somethin... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 614 Where is your presence? Journey to Life.

I realize that so often I find myself imagining worst case scenarios, or having a conversation covering an imagined reaction in facing limitations. Limitations being ideas about what is real and what is not real within one’s perspective of life. Mostly this is how one defines ... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 613 Self Forgiveness on this Morning's Rant. I am what I accept and allow.

SF on Suppression I forgive myself for allowing and accepting myself to fear following through, to fear moving out of agreement within a narrow focus in perspective of reality with others. I forgive myself for allowing and accepting myself to have made the mis-take of real... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 612 Despair and Space and Time, Self Forgiveness

Despair, I have been talking with my son about relationships and reactions when facing other people. I gave him some perspective. I realized later that the perspective I gave him I had not applied myself, or had applied recently and discovered something about being patient a... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 611 The courage of water

The courage of water I have had a problem in my chest for a while. It has taken time to begin to slow down the protective shield based on ideas, beliefs and opinions. And, that what I have allowed is so habituated, as my actions, in reaction based on fear, which is myself acc... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 610 The False Positive of the Halo of Piety

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tI-LDQCmW5E&feature=share “ Pity is about how deeply I can feel, and in order to feel this way, to experience the rush of my own pious reactions, I need victims the way an addict needs drugs” wrote the the late political theorist Jean Bethke... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 609 The Worry for Security

So much of my time during the years with my children was worry about remaining stable and being secure. This was in tandem with watching my children. From the time my second child was seven this was a large part of what I worried about. Even when my children were really small ... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 608 Not seeing the connections right in front of me. Judgements as beliefs as mind con-sciousness.

I was at this meeting; a new group. I listened to the women speak and then at the end of the meeting, began to talk individually with various women in the group. I realize that I had, in the course of the group presentation, unconsciously picked which women I thought I should... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 606 The Living Word Grounding us Here in Equality

I had a phone conversation with a business man, who complained that no one knows their words anymore. With the use of expediting words within texting words, abbreviations have become a norm for younger people. But, like our cultivation of plants, that over time, as the Americ... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 605 We are programmable, which means we can change.

I was sitting and talking with someone the other day. From the onset of the conversation this other person told a story about what they wanted, and what their father wanted for them. By the time I finished talking with them, my impression of what they wanted completely changed... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 604 The Misplaced Creative Ability of The Concrete Made Abstract. Self Forgiveness

I recently had an interaction with someone, where the creative ability of a person can take parts and create a picture, built of beliefs, and opinions and ideas, to construct a justification around having made a choice. If I look at this as an ability, it reveals how humans ar... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 603 The resiliency of silence

Trying to cover too much ground at once. I notice that I don’t always “ pan out”. I tend to focus on one thing, and forget to notice the world around me. But this is like a tunnel vision, one that zeros in on what catches my eye. So, how do I slow down and pull back and take... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 602 Understanding the space and time of practical existence, communicating here. Self Forgiveness

Understanding the space and time of practical existence, communicating here. Back to the basics of self forgiveness in every moment I speak. I find that I can communicate more readily with others, even within evaluating limitations and speaking up, but still I can move into... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 601 Real Cyber Attacks are the Presentational Use of False Dilemmas

I realized in the years that I practiced an instrument that any and all emotional values I allowed during my focus within the act of practicing remained. I had to be clear, I had to have a focus that was what I would call total. We as physical instruments are exactly the sam... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 600 The veil is thin. The practice of value touting vs. practical application.

I had a conversation with some people and reacted when they continued to tout their point of view. I went into a reaction as a non-reaction within just realizing they were being egotistical. They were presenting one dimension that was not necessarily wrong, but really very lim... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 599 Who I am within the culture of woman. Day 5 Self forgiveness and Self Correction.

Day 5 Who I am within the culture of women. I have been so busy reacting as being in expression of judgement as imagining that I am not being substantiated- all of which is based on self defining labels, that I have distracted myself from my own common sense. I even fear th... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 498 Who am I within the culture of women. Day 4 Self Forgiveness and Self Correction

This is a point of projecting value judgements onto situations and the objects outside of me as those involved in the situations that are actually normal interactions I must walk logistically in space and time. All of this is a form of protection and self defense based on a se... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 496 Who am I within the systemic culture of women Day 2 Self Forgiveness and Practical Application

My reactions to women commiserating cont. Day 2 Going down that road of commiserating, leads to more problems than it is worth, or so I believe. Situations such as this are fickle and can change in a heartbeat. I believe that such creates a burden where one should be there w... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 496 Who am I within the systemic culture of women? Self Forgiveness and Practical Application. Day 1

I have a morality point where I get pissed off when others are commiserating, especially amongst women. I see such as a social expectation where woman gather around and support emotional states, building ties as each carry the needs of the others, or that the connection is som... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 593 My Personality with Women Cont. Self Forgiveness

Continuation of My personality with women. The behaviors of suppression in fear of losing a friend as a consequence of this past event where I lost a friend because of criticism/evaluation-taken-personally of that friend’s mother by my father, I built a personality of fear... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 592 My Personality with Women Self Forgiveness

In the next blogs I am going to walk a point within my relationships with women. My personality with women. I had a memory come up during a conversation about women and how it is more difficult for me to talk with other woman then it is with men. As I talked about the me... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 591 The gift of Self Forgiveness

I notice as I step out and talk with people that I have so often not listened to the words the other speaks, as I have allowed myself to judge them based on how they dress, the way in which they use their words, the mannerisms they move as while they speak. I can become so oc... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 590 Repetitive Play, the Opportunity to Collect Data.

I have had a new person in my life for a few weeks. What I find so cool, is how much I am able to not take things personally, which I attribute to the Desteni I Process. Within this process I begin to see how my mind works, how thoughts work and how the accumulation of though... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 589 The Lag of Self Definition towards a Natural Expedition in Men

As each faction in our society looks in self interest into its own survival, there is a limitation within the collective communicating and sharing developments that lead to expediting actions needed to improve efficiency and give the space and time to understand practical real... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 588 Moving through the limitation of " I am uncomfortable."

I had a conversation with another person, where they began to use statements such as “ I am uncomfortable with this” as part of what I was speaking about. I have to realize that they are within their existence existing as a mind construct that is of belief, opinion and idea, n... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 587 Suppression: believing the entities of belief are real.

Suppression Character I have had some problems in my chest, it feels like there is this shield there. The pressure from this has been bothering me for some time. So, I looked at this point as a point of suppression. This suppression comes in a form or constriction, and if ... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 584 How did I remove negativity from my life?

I realized that we live in a practical physical world. I realized that the thoughts I have are of opinion, idea and belief. I learned that these thoughts are often a judgement, in itself not a good or a bad, but when allowed to be a final definition in a physical existence, a... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 583 ISIS is mice confined in lack, unable to see the parts and the whole.

I heard directly from someone who had participated in a study with mice. They had placed mice in a limited structure to live together. As the mice reproduced and their numbers grew, they began to separate and build walls between themselves, eventually attaching one another in ... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 582 The Slow Motion of Entities as Mind Constructed of Thoughts.

Substance is a fluid thing, one that can take many forms, and even become something less than that of a solid sound structure. A thought is such a thing, and it has not real self directive relation to practical reality, though a thought can be a directive, but this is all, as ... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com

Day 581 What would you want for yourself?

We understand that plants need water and the stuff of soil: minerals, enzymes, sunlight etc. We understand that children need education, which means exposure and opportunity to grow. If a parent does not have a wage and/or the time to expose a child to many things, then the c... —awidowsjourneytolife.blogspot.com